There is a saying that floats around Facebook. You may have heard it from well-meaning women in grocery store check-out lines while your tribe is begging for all the impulse candy. I know I hear it often in my head.
Oh! This saying creates a sense of panic in me. What about you? I start questioning my involvement, my intentions and my priorities. Am I too caught up in the moment-to-moment emotions, homework and conflicts to see the good stuff in front of me? Am I wishing my days would either smooth out or go by faster instead of soaking up that our house is great when it is noisy and crazy? I know I have done both over the past 10.5 years of my mothering journey. (I still can’t believe my first-born is 10.5 years old… how did that happen? I bet I blinked. My Mom warned me not to!)
Mothering has changed me in ways I didn’t know it would. It has built me up and broke me apart. Being a mom has brought me closer to what truly matters to me. I have gained a deeper relationship with my God, my self and my family. It has granted me the sweetest moments of love, pure and true. Each time one of my children holds my face in their sweaty little grip to kiss me gently or they give me eskimo kisses I feel that love. And I have seen God in their love for each other. Sure, they can fight to the death at times, but those fights are few compared to the countless times I have caught them doing right by one another. They help one another, they stick up for one another and they go on great-caped adventures around our home together. I have also seen God in their love of all creation. During the times we slow down, we become grass-stained, freckle-faced and sun-kissed together. Those days make mothering feel long in a good, carefree way.
The long and short of it is that someday we will swear all the carefree and stress-filled days went faster than we ever thought possible. If only God would let us push pause, I know we all would. Here is a glimpse of my paused world maybe you feel the same.
~ I would pause to have the table full of clanking silverware, dropped napkins, spilled milk that floods everywhere to feel bliss.
~ I would pause to have full beds of the ones we love under the same roof each night to feel peace.
~ I would pause to be the one our children turn to no matter if it is a fly they know for sure is a “bee” or a scary dream that they need to be comforted from.
~ I would pause to be the short order cook/nutritionist who wants to raise healthy people.
~ I would pause to be the one that hugs when they bubble over for no good reason when hormones have started to wreck their bodies, minds and spirits.
~ I would pause to be the one that teaches them to find God in everything around them and in everyone they meet.
In the long and the short of our days, I am praying for you and I to fully sit in the brevity and choose to honor the moments we have been given. God has chosen us to be a guide in our children’s lives. We point out the path and then let them lead the way. They are to be our guide as well to bring us back to what truly matters.
Let your children guide you this summer and let’s all enjoy the days we are blessed with.
Remember – try not to blink!
Blessings and Peace to your families and YOU.
(This was originally shared with MOPS@2BC in May 2013. I re-read it today, because after a crazy week with 2 rounds of antibiotics for major spider bite infections/pain/illness for Rhett and I, a small bathroom renovation, boys traveling for the week, usual wild week stuff plus Kaylee getting sick with the flu early today – – I really needed to be reminded that the days are long and the years are short… share on if you think others might need a reminder too. Let’s be honest we all do.)