I am experiencing something new. I am gathering a following. I have readers. I have people who I don’t know emailing me and commenting. And I can’t believe it. This made me stop in my tracks yesterday when I went out on a whim and posted my blog on Crock Pot Girls Facebook page. Why did it stop me? Oh don’t get me wrong I loved the quick exposure! But I guess it is that feeling we all have that toilet paper might be stuck to our shoe (or worse) as we enter a meeting or engage with new people.
I thought WOW who am I to get this attention. What will I do if I tick someone off? Should I change my approach? Should I continue? Should I just sit on a tack? (that is for my mom’s benefit… thanks for that wise bit of wisdom my whole life :)) These few questions don’t even cover my wave of insecurity that I was being drowned by all last evening. I even went to bed at 9pm and was in shock! I needed time to process and to really forget about the blog for a while.
I used to be a very nervous person about saying the wrong thing, about not wearing the right clothes and I was pretty limiting to myself. Not to others. I really didn’t put much stock in what other people really thought. I was predicting and assuming what they thought of me. It was quite a hobby in my high school years. Probably why I didn’t enjoy those years much. When I got to college, I knew I had to shake this habit. It was hard.
But the more I was “me”, I was more comfortable and others were too. Then now as a women’s ministry leader I rarely worry too much of what I say, how it is received, or what I present myself as. I am “me”. I tell women often if something strikes you wrong or you don’t like something, just let me know. I am not able to fix everything but I am happy to hear the good, the bad and the ugly. The younger version of myself was not this open. I was worried that I would criticized, laughed at, or have the high school shun happen. (I don’t miss that girl) Most the time our assumptions and perceptions aren’t even close to what is happening.
The reality of reality has been muddled up with reality tv shows. By boldly being me I am hopefully encouraging other people to strive to be more of themselves. The real part of reality is YOU being REAL! We all have stuff. We put on this face of “everything is good”. Well that is bull. Part of the human condition is being a real human. That is why it isn’t the Robot Condition.
I pray for people to be more understanding and accepting of themselves so that they can do the same easily for someone else. I live and influence by grace and faith alone.
Here is a quote I found today which sparked this crazy post…
Always be yourself because the people who matter don’t mind, and one’s who mind don’t matter.
Wouldn’t that be a different reality if we all let ourselves be ourselves and also those around us? What a ripple effect that would make. I can see the ripples now expanding to infinity. (and beyond… I know you are saying that in your best Buzz Lightyear voice)