Bully Update

Standard

2nd post today just to catch up on the school issue Ian has been dealing with…

I spoke to his teacher yesterday after school and she was glad I emailed her.  Then as we talked I shared with her that we feel perserverance is a learned behavior and we don’t want to shelter our children completely from heartache, troubles or conflict.  But when that is being pushed into a child being full of dread and anxiety about going to school then we need to help them more.

His teacher was so kind and thankful for the ways we have tried to coach Ian and I thanked her for listening.  She said she would talk to both boys seperately the next day (today) and then shake things out.  I asked her if she wouldn’t mind considering talking with the boys together to help mediate the problem.  I told her that the confrontation will be hard but talking seperately might create more backlash to my son.

She said she would contact me by email on Friday after talking to the boys.  Here is what she wrote me…

Just wanted to send a quick email…

The boys and I discussed what was happening.  I said that I had overheard the two of them talking and knew what was going on.  During our talk at the back table, another boy overheard (waiting to ask me a question) and said he had the same problem as Ian.  I think it helped Ian feel better talking about it.  The three of them talked with my help, and I feel the issue is resolved.  Please let me know if it isn’t! Thanks!

Here was my response:

Oh thank you so much!  I think that was a great way to frame it!  I am hopeful that it will be over soon.  I am also glad that this could help the other classmate.  Have a great weekend!

Then when my son got home we talked one on one about it. (which is a huge feat in a house with 3 loud kids :))  But it was a great time to focus in and hear what happened from his viewpoint.  He said he was relieved and so glad that he could talk it out with the teacher.  And he said that the other boy valued his friendship over the conflict and he would stop how he was treating Ian.  Ian was beaming.  And he said he was glad he could help someone else out.

We have had issues in the past and we will have issues again.  But this is definitely a big step forward for Ian learning when to ask for help, how to resolve conflict, and get to resolution.  So proud of him and so blessed to have a great teacher.

Thanks for reading.

Advertisements

About Kristin

I started this blog thing years ago in August 2011. I have made attempts to blog over the past three years of seminary, but it was like writing when drowning. But I have completed the bulk of my course work, so I know there is a God. I am currently in my capstone creation phase this fall. This allows me time to unravel a little and renew my passion for writing my ramblings. If you like what you read, share what it stirs in you or even share it with others. I write for you from me. A little about me... I have celebrated 16 years of wedded bliss and reality with my best friend for over 17 years. We have 3 wonderful kids that are all unique, amazing and different in their own way. Our first born is nearly a teenager. He loves talking, Scouts, reading, camping and science experiments. Our daughter is a decade old. She is our creative soul and a planner! She loves to spend time dancing, singing and nurturing/teaching her babydolls and us. She is very sweet to her brothers. Last but not least is our daring 6 year old red head boy. He broke the "Wooldridge Mold". He is the fastest runner, our busiest explorer, our deep philosopher and biggest joker, oh and he gives the best hugs. You know the long lingering kind that truly fuel your soul to sing. I have been a stay at home mom for nearly 13 years and I have found a groove that works for our family. (That grove doesn't mean I have it figured out. It just means I am good with asking for help and having my family help us survive.) Twelve years ago, I joined a local MOPS group and I have been the Coordinator for 1o years. This group has given me a chance to lead without working full time, support other women in my community and help refine my walk with God. I also attend Central Baptist Theological Seminary. I am pursuing a Masters of Divinity and loving every minute of it. I am currently working on my capstone project, which a ministry guide for the MOPS group I have lead for a decade. It will serve as a touchpoint for those in leadership and also as a sweet offering as my goodbye to meaningful work that touched every part of my life and taught me that I am called to pastor. My life isn't perfect as the paragraph above makes it seem. But I have traveled through those harder times and found strength and support through them. Hoping to use this blog as a spot to write my thoughts, feelings and stories as I keep on living life! God Bless you and keep you. We each need to remember the Divine is within each of us. Be kind to yourself and to others.

2 responses »

  1. I am rejoicing with you at the outcome of this situation. You and the teacher were superb in the way you handled it. I’m sure your prayers for wisdom entered in!

    Speaking of parenting skills, I recently got info about The Great Parenting Show: Your GPS for Parenting Success. Dr. Popkin, the founder of Active Parenting (the program I adore) will be one of the speakers on the program.The host is Jacqueline Green, and the Show will run from Sept 20 to Dec 13, for one hour on Tues and Thurs. Check it out!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s