As a mom I’ve never been ready for my children to be bullied.
I know first hand that it is part of life. It spurs on perseverance and of course makes great stories for later in life. We all have those don’t we? If you are lacking let me know and I will share some of mine with you.
I know I had a lion share of experiences from 6th grade on. I was an easy target. I was good. Squeaky clean to be exact. But now raising a pretty good and squeaky clean kid it is hard to watch from the parenting bleachers when he is confused, hurt and manipulated.
The observer in my parenting role is hurting. I want to just jump in and counsel and help him. The fixer in me wants to jump in and meet up on the playground with this other boy. “Hell has no fury than a mom of bullied child”… isn’t that the way that saying goes… 🙂
But as I said yesterday, I pray. So as the stories continue to unfold I feel drawn to prayer. Drawn to needing guidance for the right words and timing.
The situation isn’t life threatening. It is “light” threatening. My son shines with sweetness, chattiness and innocence. But hs has been manipulated for over a month and feels like he can’t change the recess pattern. It is heart breaking to watch him get all red and blotchy and hold back tears I know that are about to burst out of him. Truly heartbreaking.
I am going to continue to lift him, his day and his bully in prayer. And I am going to continue giving him ideas on how to break the pattern of the demands. No 25 minute recess needs this harassment.
Anyone else dealing with bullies right now???? I know I can’t be alone in this struggle.
Aunt Beth will come take care of it………… 🙂
Makes me sad for Ian and makes me sad that other boy thinks those actions are cool or ok. Erik had a similiar situation and it was very hard!! Hang in there mommy!
Thanks… It is just hard when he wants me to fix it as much as I want to fix it. It will all shake out. Just don’t want him to be broken from it. 3rd grade is a gamer changer!!
This is a timely blog entry for me! We are dealing with this as well. It is very hard to focus on how Christ wants me to deal with the situation rather than rushing in and knocking the kid’s block off. (And his parents’, too!) Never knew I had this much aggression in me until I got Nicholas! 🙂 I think you’re right; all we can do is pray and pray and pray.
Thanks. I am glad it is timely for you. Sometimes it is hard to know what to share when. But this one is such a heart jerker for me. Glad to know I am not alone. Keep praying.
Kristen,
I will pray for Ian’s light to continue to shine so brightly that the bully is finally overcome by it and realizes that shining for God is better than bullying for Satan.
Remember…..this too shall pass.
Suzie
This breaks my heart thinkig of how sweet Ian is! I can’t get his face out of my head. I know it hits home and it must be the age? Gabe has went through some of the same things lately, but thankfully it has passed! I will pray it does for Ian as well!!!