Yesterday Ian, 8 kept asking me how he could earn “muffin points”. I looked at him curiously and asked him to clarify. He went on to say that Dad told him about them. Then I asked what he would receive if he had “muffin points”. He said he would like to earn enough points to trade them in for a new to him Xbox game. I said I would talk to Dad to figure things out before I started handing out points. The day continued with its very hectic pace with church, leaving my cell at church (doh) and 2 community ice cream socials (Scouts from 1:30-3:30 and MOPS 3:15 to 6pm).
I honestly didn’t think again about “muffin points”. But my diligent son did. He would volunteer to put something extra away or he would do a task super fast and then tell me that he was sure he earned a “muffin point”. I just deflected the comments and said that he should do what he has done to just be a helpful Wooldridge team member. He then begged me to talk to Dad.
That didn’t happen until Amon was putting Ian to bed. I came in for a quick good night kiss and hug. I hit Amon up for the definition of “muffin points”, because Ian had mentioned this deal they had worked out. Amon looked at me like I was crazy and then started laughing so hard that I was afraid he would wake up Rhett! He finally let us in on what was so funny… it was not “muffin points” it was BROWNIE POINTS. Ian blushed a little bit and wanted to know when those could kick in as well.
Taking this story to our grown up lives… I started reflecting on times when someone was adamant about something and could help me see how or why it was that way. I know I have been that adamant person before. I remember a time in junior high that my girlfriends were going to wring my neck because I said an event was 3 hours long when it was 4. Doesn’t sound like a riveting story except I was adamant. I kept saying, “7 to 8, 8 to 9, 10 to 11”. I was smarter than this I promise but one finally had the idea to have me say it out loud with my fingers. (nothing like going old school :)) Then it hit me. DUH! Sometimes slowing down and gaining understanding is a defining point not just once in a while but everyday. (I was soooo adamant that this conversation turned heated debate lasted over 20 minutes)
I try to ask more questions if I don’t understand something or need more information so I can make a decision. Sometimes that means asking even though you thought you understood.
Have you ever had a time when you were adamant and wrong? Good times! We all have and being a grace filled person can help you laugh it off and apologize! (key in most situations)
So do something extra today to earn your “muffin points”!
PS Thank you to Connie Smith Decker, Jo Ann George Harper, Jennifer Smith Utz, Barbara Stocklas Elder and Sharon Reavey Groom for putting up with me all those years of Junior High and High School. I am sure they have more stories to share on me. Thank you for always putting up with me.