The Search is On for a New Routine

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I am undergoing a process of routine change right now.  It is a bold path and wide-reaching.  With the newness of school routines, I am not only reacting to my own routine changes but currently Ian and Kaylee’s.  Whew!  Managing the differences in life between the openness of summer and the defined time of school is hard.  They are loving school but we are losing it during the window of 4-8pm.  Between snack, dinner, homework, etc… we are battling the exhaustion of two kids in full day school.

At 4pm, I am so excited to see them and by 4:05 they have sucked the air out of the house.  Yesterday they actually walked up the drive smacking each other.  This is all new to us.  We typically all get along pretty well but the ugly head of exhaustion may take us under.

It gets better around 8pm because Kaylee is already in bed and Ian is headed there.  And they are both bitter that Rhett is still up, but hey he has been enjoying his afternoon naps again so there!  I know that with any time of change it is going to get better soon.  This initial time warp lasts about 3 weeks.  Soon it will be a faded memory of how tired they have been.  (I can’t wait)

To be proactive with handling the exhaustion I have decided to try:

1 – greet them on the driveway from the bus (perhaps the hitting will be halted) with a hug and a big smile

2 – not answer the phone until after 5pm (text me if you neeeeeeeed me)

3 – have a snack and drink on the counter ready to go

4 – take turns on who shares about their day first

5 – have a dinner planned out hours ahead so I don’t get flustered when 5pm comes

6 – ask them what they would like to do after snack and homework (talk more with mom, play upstairs, downstairs, outside, or watch a show quietly)

I know that this seems like quite a structured list but all of this happens in just a moment.  It is a decision to parent proactively instead of reactively.  It doesn’t cut it to just be there to greet them.  You have to pick a pattern that works for you and stick with it.  Kids crave routine, predictability and communication.  I can do that!  I just need to get ‘er done.

Hoping you all are finding new routines as a stretching and defining time.  Don’t let them bog you down.  Take them on as a new challenge that you can tackle.

Have a blessed day!

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About Kristin

I started this blog thing years ago in August 2011. I have made attempts to blog over the past three years of seminary, but it was like writing when drowning. But I have completed the bulk of my course work, so I know there is a God. I am currently in my capstone creation phase this fall. This allows me time to unravel a little and renew my passion for writing my ramblings. If you like what you read, share what it stirs in you or even share it with others. I write for you from me. A little about me... I have celebrated 16 years of wedded bliss and reality with my best friend for over 17 years. We have 3 wonderful kids that are all unique, amazing and different in their own way. Our first born is nearly a teenager. He loves talking, Scouts, reading, camping and science experiments. Our daughter is a decade old. She is our creative soul and a planner! She loves to spend time dancing, singing and nurturing/teaching her babydolls and us. She is very sweet to her brothers. Last but not least is our daring 6 year old red head boy. He broke the "Wooldridge Mold". He is the fastest runner, our busiest explorer, our deep philosopher and biggest joker, oh and he gives the best hugs. You know the long lingering kind that truly fuel your soul to sing. I have been a stay at home mom for nearly 13 years and I have found a groove that works for our family. (That grove doesn't mean I have it figured out. It just means I am good with asking for help and having my family help us survive.) Twelve years ago, I joined a local MOPS group and I have been the Coordinator for 1o years. This group has given me a chance to lead without working full time, support other women in my community and help refine my walk with God. I also attend Central Baptist Theological Seminary. I am pursuing a Masters of Divinity and loving every minute of it. I am currently working on my capstone project, which a ministry guide for the MOPS group I have lead for a decade. It will serve as a touchpoint for those in leadership and also as a sweet offering as my goodbye to meaningful work that touched every part of my life and taught me that I am called to pastor. My life isn't perfect as the paragraph above makes it seem. But I have traveled through those harder times and found strength and support through them. Hoping to use this blog as a spot to write my thoughts, feelings and stories as I keep on living life! God Bless you and keep you. We each need to remember the Divine is within each of us. Be kind to yourself and to others.

3 responses »

  1. Thanks for this! As we head into the monster of “back to school routine” tomorrow, I will utilize these great tips! I am a little nervous about football and gymnastics the night before the first day! Yikes! I am sad and excited for a new school year! Thanks for the tips! Love you!

  2. Well my dear you are doing what I’m doing!!!! I love your list and have been trying to do the same as well as it just makes I think me be more patient! 🙂 I love routine and I think because I do so do my kiddos! I feel like once we get past labor day we will be good as all the sports, tiger cubs, etc will have started and are now part of our routine as well!!!

    I love school starting and I love watching the boys love it as well!

    Thursday we take Erik to college and he gets to start a new chapter in his life and its so exciting!!!

    Love ya! Beth

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